Friday, April 19, 2013

POST ABORTION STRESS AND ABORTION COMPLICATIONS ABORTION RECOVERY AWARENESS MONTH PART 3

This is part three of a three part series on Post Abortion Stress (PAS), for Abortion Recovery Awareness Month. 

Part One talked about the effect of PAS on post abortive women and recovery. Links to resources were provided, including information on choosing the right recovery path for the individual.

In Part Two we discussed how PAS affected others who in any way were participants in the abortion and survivors of the abortion, which led to a look at Post Abortion Survivor Syndrome, or PASS. Part One was referred to for recovery resources. 

Now, in Part Three, our topic is PAS and the various complications that can arise during and after abortion procedures. Since psychological difficulties were the focus in parts 1 and 2, the emphasis in part 3 is physical problems. 

Then when Herod saw that he had been tricked by the magi, he became very enraged, and sent and slew all the male children who were in Bethlehem and all its vicinity, from two years old and under, according to the time which he had determined from the magi. Then what had been spoken through Jeremiah the prophet was fulfilled:  “A voice was heard in Ramah, Weeping and great mourning, Rachel weeping for her children; And she refused to be comforted, Because they were no more.” (Matthew 2:16-18)

Post abortive women mourn and weep for their children, refusing to be comforted, because in addition to the loss of their children they have to deal with physical complications, often severe, sometimes fatal. These physical problems begin during the abortion procedure, whether by surgery or by pill or by both. 

From November 2008 to March 2013, there were 14 known medical emergencies at a single abortion clinic, Southwest Women’s Options. This month, April 2013, Planned Parenthood in Delaware suspended abortions at two of its 3 clinics that perform abortions, following five known emergency calls since January 4. 



According to Iowa Right to Life, complications of abortion pills include nausea, vomiting, pain, severe hemorrhaging and death (for RU-486), and nausea, diarrhea, pain, bone marrow depression, severe anemia, liver damage and lung disease (for methotrexate). Surgical abortion complications include infections, uterine cervical lacerations, perforations, severe hemorrhaging, blood clots, very high fevers, breathing problems, abnormally high heart rate, seizures, cardiac arrest, rupturing of the uterus, comas, and death. Pregnancy complications may include difficulty getting pregnant, miscarriages, fetal deformities and ectopic pregnancies.

http://iowartl.org/get-the-facts/abortion/abortion-methods/

National Right to Life has more information about the various abortion methods and complications they cause, as well as information on making an informed decision before getting an abortion and some abortion alternatives.


 “Approximately 10% of women undergoing elective abortion will suffer immediate complications, of which approximately one-fifth (2%) are considered life threatening. The nine most common major complications which can occur at the time of an abortion are: infection, excessive bleeding, embolism, ripping or perforation of the uterus, anesthesia complications, convulsions, hemorrhage, cervical injury, and endotoxic shock. The most common “minor” complications include: infection, bleeding, fever, second degree burns, chronic abdominal pain, vomiting, gastro-intestinal disturbances, and Rh sensitization.” (From the Elliot Institute, which specializes in after abortion issues and healing.)

Women who suffer physical complications during or after abortion procedures are not just statistics, of course. These physical problems could happen to any woman who chooses to go through with an abortion.

Donna from North Carolina developed severe endometriosis (development of uterine-lining tissue outside the uterus) and was forced to have a hysterectomy by the age of 27. 

Shari Richards of Bloomfield, MI, following her abortion, “suffered from severe abdominal pain, high fever, and hemorrhaging” and it took weeks to recover “from the severe infection and physical complications”. 

One week after her abortion, Kathy from Ohio, in her own words, “…was in the hospital for surgery to correct the complications from my "safe and legal" earlier abortion. No one ever told me about that risk. Nine years later I ended up with a tubal pregnancy that was rupturing, which obviously not only ended that baby’s life, but also resulted in the removal of my fallopian tube and my ovary. No one ever told me about that risk either.”

These are just bits of a few of the stories of women who suffered physical complications from abortions. You can read more about these and other post abortive women through the testimony directory of Silent No More Awareness:

http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/testimonies/index.aspx

According to the Elliot Institute, abortions bring increased risk for contributing health risk factors such as substance abuse, as well lower general health demonstrated by post abortion increases in doctor visits. Uterine perforations and cervical lacerations during abortions may cause further problems later, and pelvic inflammatory disease and placenta previa are post-abortion dangers that can also be fatal. In addition, there is an increased risk of cancers such as cervical, ovarian and liver cancers.


According to one leading researcher, abortion has caused over 300,000 breast cancer deaths since 1973, when abortion on demand became legal, in the USA.


According to a new study, “Women who had a history of induced abortion were 1.25 times more likely to have metabolic syndrome compared to women who had never had abortions.” This means an increased risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes and stroke. 


So clearly, having even one abortion can result in death by a number of causes during or soon after the abortion procedure, or even years later. 

Death rates for all causes are 45% higher among women who have had abortions, maternal death rates are four times higher, and the rate of suicide is six times higher according to the following links, which in turn have additional links about deaths and the many problems increased by abortion. The problems, and the deaths, increase as women have more abortions.




Tonya Reaves, Jennifer Morbelli and Karnamaya Mongar are just a few of the face of death by the “choice” of abortion, and there are many more. 





If you are considering an abortion or know someone who is, please spare yourself or that person you know from the possible physical complications abortion procedures can cause during the procedure or even years later. Please don’t risk losing your life while losing the life of your unborn child. Please read the entry on this blog of three days ago (4/16/13), “Post Abortion Stress and Post Abortive Women. There you will find links for places where you can find help before (or after) you get an abortion. Here is another help link to the Elliot Institute:


If you are considering an abortion, please see an obstetrician or gynecologist before deciding, and get help from a pro-life pregnancy center or elsewhere. There are options besides abortions that will avoid complications and save your child, providing the help you need to care for your child yourself or allow a loving family to adopt your child.

If you have already had an abortion, please see a pro-life physician who can provide specific post abortion treatment for physical complications.


If you are considering an abortion, it’s not too late to change your mind and choose a life alternative. If you have had an abortion, there is hope for medical help and healing that can help minimize and enable you to recover from any physical damage or potential physical problems caused by abortion.

“Thus says the Lord, “Restrain your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears; For your work will be rewarded,” declares the Lord, “And they will return from the land of the enemy. “There is hope for your future,” declares the Lord.” (Jeremiah 31:16, 17)

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

POST ABORTION STRESS AND ABORTION PARTICIPANTS ABORTION RECOVERY AWARENESS MONTH PART TWO 

Then when Herod saw that he had been tricked by the magi, he became very enraged, and sent and slew all the male children who were in Bethlehem and all its vicinity, from two years old and under, according to the time which he had determined from the magi.  
Then what had been spoken through Jeremiah the prophet was fulfilled:  “A voice was heard in Ramah, Weeping and great mourning, Rachel weeping for her children; And she refused to be comforted, Because they were no more.” (Matthew 2:16-18).

 Part One of this three-part series on Post Abortion Stress for Abortion Recovery Awareness Month, posted yesterday (4/16/13), we focused on how Post Abortion Stress hurts women who have had abortions. We looked at PAS symptoms, the hope and help for healing, and how to find help, along with providing helpful links.

While the greatest damage from PAS is to the women who have had abortions, terrible damage can also be done to the many others who participated in any way in those abortions, including:

--Husbands, boyfriends, friends, fathers, mothers, siblings of the aborting mother, siblings of the children aborted, and other family members;

--School, church or other teachers, counselors, coaches and staff members who helped the mother get the abortion, including those who paid for the abortion;

--Anyone who in any way forced the mother to abort their child;

--Anyone who may have tried to talk the mother out of the abortion and “failed”;

--Abortion clinic or hospital doctors, nurses and other staff who performed or participated by work and by presence in aborting the mother’s unborn child;

--All kinds of people who were in any way involved in a mother’s abortion. 


 Abortion participants don’t experience all of the symptoms the aborting mothers have to deal with, but they can face many of them, including in particular survivor guilt. This is known as Post Abortion Survivor Syndrome (PASS). According to one website, psychiatry distinguishes ten kinds of abortion survivors:

1. Statistical survivors in a country where they legally should have been aborted.

2. Those who have survived the advice to abort.

3. Sibling survivors.

4. Those whose parents told them they should have aborted them.

5. Disabled survivors.

6. The survivors after the abortion of one or more siblings, as in test tube fertilization with embryo transfer.

7. Abortion procedure survivors

8. Dead survivors, born after aborted siblings to briefly survive abortions but then die, scarring their abortive mothers and abortion participants.

9. Survivors by circumstances that did not allow them to be aborted.

10. Survivors because of parents who waited too long and lost the chance to abort them. 




I am a sibling survivor. In 1999 my mother told me that she had aborted a sibling not many years after I was born. I am also a survivor by circumstance. An abortion was not easy to come by in the 1950’s, even in New York City, and my father was Roman Catholic. Otherwise, as I found out from family members, I would have been aborted myself. 


My sibling was not born into circumstances that would insure his or her survival, so my sibling was aborted. Since 1999, I have had to live with the death of a sibling at the hands of my own mother, our mother. 


Even though there was absolutely nothing I could have done to prevent the abortion, even though I didn’t even know about it, I still felt guilty that I was not able to stop my mother from aborting my sibling. 


Also, I missed my sibling and felt robbed of the life I could have had with my sister or brother. Indeed, I still miss my sibling and grieve the loss of the brother or sister I was never allowed to meet or get to know. 



The next few years were difficult due to PTSD brought to the surface in part by 9/11, as the terrorist attacks were only miles away from where I was born. Over the years I was getting the help I needed. But only in the last few weeks have I realized that part of what I was living with was Post Abortion Survivor Syndrome. My involvement in the pro-life movement is helping me cope as I help others.


But sadly, I am not alone in my struggle with PASS.

Kevin from California prodded his girlfriend into getting an abortion and spent years with increasing regret and often thinking about his long-gone girlfriend and his aborted daughter. Years later, through social media, they helped each other find forgiveness and healing, but they still grieve the loss of their daughter. 

Lara in Alberta, Canada, chose not to have an abortion but did not try to talk her sister out of having one. She still regrets this decision but is finding healing through pro-life involvement. 

Susan from Missouri tried unsuccessfully to talk her friend out of having an abortion, and she has turned to God for help in overcoming her grief. 

The stories of Kevin, Lara, Susan and many others can be found through the testimony directory at Silent No More Awareness:



PASS has many of the same or similar symptoms as PAS. According to Dr. Philip Ney, who first uncovered and wrote about PASS in 1979:

“The most prominent symptom of PASS is existential guilt, “I feel I don’t deserve to be alive.”
“Other symptoms include pervasive anxiety, fear of the future, sense of impending doom, self injury, obsessive thinking, poor self identity, low self esteem, self destructive behavior, fear of becoming psychotic and dissociation.”

Abortion survivors have very similar symptoms to those survive military combat zones, only sometimes worse. This is not surprising, since they have just survived a different type of combat zone. Rather than a war zone in which people survive guns and bombs, the abortion survivor has survived the weapons of abortion, in the combat zone of his or her own family, in a society that has become a culture of death.  

Conservatively, 40 to 50 percent of the world’s population are sibling abortion survivors. Approximately 50% of young North Americans are sibling abortion survivors. Including other abortion survivors besides siblings, it is clear that well over half of the population of North America and of the world are abortion survivors. 

http://www.lifeissues.org/PAS/index.html

There is a good possibility that you are an abortion survivor. If not, you probably know somebody who is an abortion survivor. 

If you are an abortion survivor, or know someone who is, please look at the previous blog entry “Post Abortion Stress and Post Abortive Women: Abortion Recovery Awareness Month, Part One”. Check the symptoms of PAS, along with the symptoms of PASS mentioned earlier in this post. Follow the links and find help for recovery, whether for yourself or an abortion survivor you know. Choose a path of healing and work hard at it, for there is healing through the hurt.

Here is another Silent No More Awareness link, to help you find abortion after care programs in your area:

http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/search/index.aspx


Abortion survivors mourn and weep for the children along with the mothers who aborted them. Though the aborted children were not their children, their pain may be great and they may refuse in their grief and guilt to be comforted.  


Thus says the Lord, “A voice is heard in Ramah, Lamentation and bitter weeping. Rachel is weeping for her children; She refuses to be comforted for her children, Because they are no more.” (Matthew 2:18, Jeremiah 31:15). 

But there is hope for abortion survivors, and there is hope for you if you are an abortion survivor.

“Thus says the Lord, “Restrain your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears; For your work will be rewarded,” declares the Lord, “And they will return from the land of the enemy. “There is hope for your future,” declares the Lord.” (Jeremiah 31:16, 17).

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

POST ABORTION STRESS AND POST ABORTIVE WOMEN: ABORTION RECOVERY AWARENESS MONTH, PART ONE


Magi, or wise men, had followed a star to Jerusalem looking for a king. On being told of the prophecy that a king would be born in Bethlehem, they headed straight there, found the infant King, Jesus Christ, and worshiped Him and gave Him gifts.


The Roman king Herod, who ruled over Israel, had told the magi to tell him when they found the king, so that he could worship him too. But Herod really wanted to kill one he wrongly saw as competition for his throne. Warned in a dream, they bypassed Herod and returned home.


 “Then when Herod saw that he had been tricked by the magi, he became very enraged, and sent and slew all the male children who were in Bethlehem and all its vicinity, from two years old and under, according to the time which he had determined from the magi. Then what had been spoken through Jeremiah the prophet was fulfilled:  “A voice was heard in Ramah, Weeping and great mourning, Rachel weeping for her children; And she refused to be comforted, Because they were no more.” (Matthew 2:16-18)     


April is Abortion Recovery Awareness Month, and this is the first in a three-part series on Abortion Recovery.


Now, these verses may appear to be about infanticide and not abortion.


However there is good reason to believe that male “children two years old and under” included those in the womb. The magi had not returned so Herod didn’t know whether the king had already been born or not. People in his time and culture did not make the legal and language distinctions between born and unborn children that we have made since abortion became legal. The aborting of children was not uncommon, and infanticide was not uncommon.


What is certain is that women mourn and weep, women refuse to be comforted, when their children are taken from them through abortion, in the same ways that they are greatly grieved and pained when they lose children outside of the womb. 



Angelina of Ontario, Canada, tells her story of depression and self-hatred, alcohol and drug addiction and sexual affairs, and how she was suicidal after aborting Sarah, who was conceived after a date rape. She found help through a counselor, healing retreats, and ironically through an ectopic pregnancy. She is still healing after 40 years.

Julia from Texas tells of how Steven Tyler, of the rock group Aerosmith, coerced her into having an abortion they now both regret.

Pro-choice Cindy, from Alabama, had a dream of holding her aborted baby boy eight months after her abortion. Depressed, she became an alcoholic and sexually promiscuous. Wishing she were dead, she found healing after 23 years, but she still mourns her lost son.

These stories and those of many other women who regret abortion can be found here:

 


Whether or not women have lost their children to tragic accident, disease, murder outside the womb, or murder inside the womb, the death of their children still causes horrible trauma. This is true even though women have given up their children to be aborted.


Why? At least 64% of women who have had abortions felt in some way forced into having their abortions. It is no coincidence that the number one cause of death among pregnant women is murder. It is likely that other women, looking back later on their abortions, have felt that they were somehow coerced. More about those who put pressure on women to have abortions and the ways in which they force them can be found in this link:




Symptoms of Post-Abortion Stress (PAS) include:

-- Bouts of crying

-- Depression
-- Guilt, including survivor guilt

--Inability to forgive yourself
--Intense grief / sadness

--Anger / rage

-- Emotional numbness

-- Sexual problems, loss of interest in sex, or promiscuity

-- Eating disorders

--Lowered self esteem

--Self-degrading and self-punishing behavior such as failure to properly care for oneself or self-injury

--Drug and alcohol abuse

--Suicidal urges

--Difficulty with and disruption in relationships, getting into abusive relationships

--Interruption of the bonding process with present or future children

--Overprotection of living children

--Control issues
--Resentment or anger toward those who were involved in the abortion decision

--Anxiety and panic attacks

--Multiple abortions

-- Pattern of repeat crisis pregnancy

--Anxiety over fertility and childbearing issues

--Discomfort around babies or pregnant women

--Fear / ambivalence of pregnancy

--Pre-occupation with becoming pregnant again

--Reduced motivation

--Re-experiencing the abortion, including flashbacks and nightmares about lost or hurt babies, as well as sleep disturbances

--Anniversary syndrome (PAS symptoms heighten at the time of the anniversary of the abortion or the baby’s due date)

--Brief psychotic break with reality (rare)

http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/emotions/symptoms.htm


http://www.postabortionsyndrome.org/post_abortion_syndrome_symptoms.html



With the exception of abortion-specific symptoms, these signs are also indicators of the more generalized Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) of which PAS is a type.


A lot of people are hurt by abortion, so a lot of people are in need of abortion recovery. But how does a post abortive woman recover?


First it is important to say that abortion recovery takes a lifetime of healing, progress and growth. There may be setbacks along the way, but there will be a turning point that a post abortive mother will only know when she has reached it.


If you are a post abortive woman seeking healing, the important thing is to seek out help promptly, but without rushing. Do your research, go online, and talk with people you trust, especially those who may be in abortion recovery themselves. Then choose a recovery person or group (or both) that feels safe and right to you. There is no single “right” or “best” way to recovery. If you get into and put yourself into a recovery program and it just isn’t working for you, by all means look into another recovery program.


Online recovery through forums, message boards, chats and email groups can be helpful as a supplement. Books and websites can also be very helpful. But in most cases a personal touch will be needed, whether a counselor, clergyperson, therapist, therapy group, peer counselor, peer group, pro-life pregnancy resource center or other support person or group.


There are certain things you have a right to expect of support people and groups, including confidentiality, no pressure and no rush to tell your story, prompt responses when you try to get in touch, no political agenda, being non-judgmental, respectful, and knowledgeable, and no “quick fixes” or “spiritual band-aids”.




As a Christian and someone dealing with Post Abortion Survivor Syndrome (more on that soon), I recommend a Christian path for healing. However, you might be a post abortive woman who just can’t deal with that for whatever reason. There are other recovery programs and resources out there for you.


Here are some websites with links, articles and resource lists to help you on the road to recovery, or to help someone else on their recovery path.










Thus says the Lord, “A voice is heard in Ramah, Lamentation and bitter weeping. Rachel is weeping for her children; She refuses to be comforted for her children, Because they are no more.”

That is Matthew 2:18, which is a direct quotation of Jeremiah 31:15, which continues, “Thus says the Lord, “Restrain your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears; For your work will be rewarded,” declares the Lord, “And they will return from the land of the enemy. “There is hope for your future,” declares the Lord” (16, 17).

Friday, April 12, 2013

SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS MONTH APRIL 2013 PROLIFEeration

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) in the United States. 

According to the SAAM website at http://www.nsvrc.org/saam/sexual-assault-awareness-month-home “The 2013 National Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) campaign focuses on healthy sexuality and its connection to child sexual abuse prevention.”…“The 2013 SAAM campaign national slogan is: "It’s time … to talk about it. Talk early, talk often. Prevent sexual violence."

So, let’s talk about sexual assault awareness, and in particular child sexual abuse prevention, beginning with some important words from Jesus Christ.


 He said to His disciples, “It is inevitable that stumbling blocks come, but woe to him through whom they come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than that he would cause one of these little ones to stumble.” (Luke 17:1, 2)

One of the worst stumbling blocks that can be put in front of anyone, and particularly a child, is to be sexually abused. When children are sexually abused, it causes them to stumble and fall.

Emotional distress, depression, sexual dysfunctions and promiscuity, physical symptoms, despair, feelings of abandonment and betrayal even by God and those closest to them, and suicidal thoughts are hazards set, over and over again, in front of sexually abused children. Constant banging against such obstructions, even years after the abuse has “ended”, hinders sexually abused children as they try to enjoy life, be productive, and be the people God made them and meant for them to be. 



Children who experience sexual abuse experience many of the same symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as soldiers in a combat zone. The violence against these children often comes from enemies who are supposed to be their friends and dates, their relatives, family friends and acquaintances, and even, though infrequently, their biological parents. Children are sexually abused by their supposed protectors and those who should be defending their instead of sexually assaulting and raping them.



Those who are warring on our children are of course not just those they know and thought they could trust. Sometimes strangers sexually abuse children too. As the sex trafficking industry grows in our country, sexual abuse by sex traffickers and their clients likewise increases. 


In a LifeNews article from about a year ago, Feminists for Life President Serrin Foster writes: “Feminists for Life opposes all forms of violence against women and children – including abortion and rape.” She goes on to declare that every rape is wrong with no exceptions, whether the victims are female or male, whether the perpetrators are male or female, whether the perpetrators are family members, friends, strangers, sex traffickers or the clients of sex traffickers. 


The Feminists for Life president continues: “Rapists should be prosecuted no matter if the victim becomes pregnant or not, no matter if she has an abortion, miscarriage or live birth.”

Foster singles out sex traffickers: “Unbelievably, there is no legal protection against taking a child across state lines for an abortion even if you live in a state that requires parental notification or approval for an abortion upon a child. Who takes under-aged, pregnant girls across state lines for abortion? ~most often, it’s noncustodial, older men who are sexual predators seeking to conceal the crime of statutory rape or other noncustodial adults involved in sex trafficking of minors.”

She calls for passage of the Child Interstate Abortion Notification Act (CIANA), H.R. 2299, which “would provide up to a one year imprisonment for anyone who performs an abortion on an out of state minor not accompanied by a parent.”




In this excellent article, Serrin Foster deftly ties together child sexual abuse and rape, sex trafficking, and abortion. 


In 2009, adolescents under 15 years obtained .05% of all abortions, but had the highest abortion ratio, 785 abortions for every 1,000 live births (CDC); those aged 15–17 obtained 6% of all abortions.



However, it is almost certain that abortions performed on girls under 18 are underreported, because the sexual abuse of girls who go to or are brought to abortion clinics is clearly underreported. 


Lila Rose and her Live Action team have, through undercover work and videos, have exposed how Planned Parenthood  is not only failing to report cases of sexual abuse, but is also aiding and abetting sex traffickers. Here are some of the videos:






Failing to report child sexual abuse and helping sex traffickers cover their tracks are of course serious crimes. But committing these horrid crimes against our children means Planned Parenthood, and the rest of the abortion industry, is able to perform more abortions and make more money off of their main source of income. Over half of PP’s income is abortion income ( http://www.lifenews.com/2012/01/05/planned-parenthood-51-of-its-income-comes-from-abortions/

No wonder PP considers it worth the risk to exploit sexually abused children by helping those trafficking them for sex and not reporting their abuse.


The only way doing this will not be worth it for them is if we practice the 2013 Sexual Assault Awareness month 2013. "It’s time … to talk about it. Talk early, talk often. Prevent sexual violence." 


For the sake of the children, our society, and our souls, we must talk now and talk often about the sexual abuse, rape, trafficking and exploitation of our children. We must push for laws requiring parental notification before aborting the children of minors. We must urge that laws requiring the reporting of suspected sexual abuse of minors be enforced against abortion industry workers. We must tell the truth about how aborting these children’s children only adds to the trauma of sexual abuse the trauma of knowing their babies have been killed. 

Let’s speak out and stand up for our sexually abused children, and for their unborn children as well.